This is the recent phenomenon in the book world: “The Secret” authored by Rhonda Byrne who personally had her life collapse around her and discovered “The secret” and came to realize that this was the key to her life. It is co authored by seven other people from motivational speakers to Philosophers to Physicians to Chiropractors to Business guru’s and Psychologists.
What is “The Secret”? It is The Law of Attraction. Meaning, everything that’s coming into your life you are attracting into your life simply by your thoughts and actions. You’re current thoughts are creating your future life. What you think and focus on MOST will appear as your life. Simple examples given in the book: Health, Careers, Relationships and Money
Any of these thoughts sound familiar? “Oh my god I should NOT become fat, Holidays are around the corner, I’m going to eat and lose the battle of weight management, and I’m going to gain back everything I lost in the year just during this one holiday season” I’m sure it does !! Now, even though these thoughts at the end of the day MIGHT sound like positive thinking: meaning – you trying to control your weight and thinking about how to NOT gain it, try reading inside of it more. The Key of your thoughts are NOT, NOT and WEIGHT, FAT, GAIN BACK WEIGHT. Hence wrong thinking. You are thinking of weight all the time and subconsciously beating yourself up over it sadly without much result. Solution? : Positive thoughts/ images and Action. In this case that would mean: Simply think “I am going to be healthy and reach my goal” and absolutely etch an image of how you want to at your goal in your head and simply forget about it. Now once the positive thought is made, its time for action from your side to make the thought come true. Same with money. Wrong thoughts: “I should NOT get into DEBT, I have to make sure I never get into DEBT. I am going to do everything I can to avoid DEBT, oh my god, I have SO MUCH DEBT how am I going to get out of it” Key words: DEBT, NOT, SO MUCH DEBT. What you’re attracting to your life in this case? Yes, DEBT. Solution? : Positive thoughts/images and action. Same goes for every other aspect of your life. Now this may appear simple, redundant and sometimes even silly, I leave that up to you to decide.
Ok now you know what this book is about, here are my thoughts:
Definitely brings an awareness of positive thinking and optimism to people. And believe me as adults we really need it! We need to learn how to use less of NOT and CANNOT and stop obsessing about what we need to do 24/7 or lose sleep over it but just act on it !
Does not talk anything controversial like religion, god etc. It simply refers to that as “the universe”. It says things like “if you think positively, the universe will give you all the things that you thought about and acted upon” hence making it more appealing to everyone irrespective of religion, belief or ethnicity.
I like that they talk about action, unlike many other motivational and philosophical books out there. This does not propagate just sitting at home thinking and picturing a million dollars or a 100 pound body and believing in your god and think it’s going to happen. It teaches very sensibly that you have to get off your ass and move towards what you think and want!
The challenge we have as human beings is , it is absolutely impossible to have positive thoughts all the time. Atleast ONCE in this process you might consciously or subconsciously have a thought naturally towards the negative. How do you gain control of your thoughts? Won’t we be superhuman if we can think positively 100% of the time and are actually able to get our mind to listen to us??
The other scary part for me is not only do our conscious thoughts affect us, but our subconscious thoughts affect us as well. How on earth do I control my subconscious thoughts when I have an extremely hard time controlling the conscious ones I make!
The BIGGEST turn off for me after reading this book is that it goes behind and talks about ONLY the material things in life like money, a great body, career, cars, houses etc. Not a WORD about satisfaction at work, Gratitude in life, fulfillment or simply Happiness. You cannot buy or get all this simply by following a process now can you?
But I guess they have to talk about the material things in life like “you can have anything you want, a million dollars or a perfect body and health, a maserati or billion dollar mansion” to sell more books. At the end of the day this book being published is a business. Not for charity. Even Rhonda Byrne has to make money and sell a million books and make it to the New York Times bestseller, coz maybe that’s her goal/thought and this book written this way is her action!!! This materialism and capitalism is NOT acceptable by me.
I’m sure if the key line was “you can have anything you want, Happiness, good health, satisfaction, gratitude or even kindness” this book would be classified under a completely different category at would’ve ended up being yet another motivational and inspirational book like the million other that already exist.
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